Let’s Talk About Sex

Are you having pain during sex? Has it gotten so bad that you don’t even want to have sex anymore because it is just too painful? Have you tried every position only to end up frustrated? Or maybe you are even starting to believe that it is not worth the effort.

Please know – you are not alone. Something can be done.

Lately I have been meeting so many women just like you. They are frustrated because every time they try to have sex they end up in pain. The pain leads to decreased desire and even restrictions on “naked time”. You may even start to feel that the intimacy of your relationship is being affected. Or worse, that you will never get back to a pain free sex life.

Maybe you have already reached out to a doctor or a physical therapist for help only to be told that nothing can be done to improve your situation.

Please know – you are not alone. Something can be done.

I recently had a new patient who was looking for a pain free sex life. She had seen another Physical Therapist who told her (please notice the quote):

“I don’t believe you are trying hard enough”. (Yes, those were the exact words)

So, I apologized to my new patient for the words that had been spoken over her. Not only was she having pain with sex but she was then told that it was her fault.

That is unacceptable in my book.

Maybe you have had a similar experience where you have reached out to a health care provider only to be told that it is your fault, nothing can be done, or this is just the ways things are at your age. I am here to tell you that none of those things are true.

It is not your fault.

There is something that can be done.

You can have pain free sex at any age.

We see many ladies just like you in our clinic on a daily basis. Many of them have been to other providers and not gotten the results they were looking for. Or, even worse, they have been told demoralizing things like they are not trying hard enough.

You may be too scared to even talk to a health care provider. Perhaps you have just assumed that nothing can be done and this is just the way life is going to be for you.

What would your life look like if you were able to have pain free sex? Would that change your relationship? How would you feel about yourself?

Let’s face it – sex is important for a loving relationship. You may have been trying to convince yourself that you don’t need to have sex. Or that it’s not the most important thing. And you’re right - it’s not the most important thing. But, what happens in the bedroom is really important.

Or you may have been trying to convince yourself that you can just get through it. But, is that really how you want to live your life? By just getting through intimacy? This is supposed to be an act where we can bond with our partner to provide connection and intimacy for our relationships.

You need to find the right professional who can walk you through these issues and help you find solutions that allow for pain free sex. You owe it to yourself and you owe it to your partner.

If you feel like you have seen a doctor or physical therapist who left you discouraged about your potential to ever again enjoy sex pain free, I am sorry. I promise you there is another way to get you back to enjoying sex pain free. And you deserve to have this important aspect of your life back.

Or maybe you have been working up the courage to finally talk to someone about your pain. You might be finally ready to figure out what is behind this issue and learn what is possible for you.

Then I encourage you to sign up for one of our Free Discovery Visits. This is an absolutely free 20 minute consultation where you can tell your story and also get all of your questions answered. This is perfect for people who have had a bad experience somewhere else or who just aren’t sure if we can even help them.

We look forward to seeing you at Physical Therapy for everyBODY and helping you get back to a pain free sex life.